Not only are funeral directors leeches, but they have government support in their quest to bleed their customers, at a time when they really don't need to be bled.
Funeral directors are blood-sucking leeches
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My mother, whom I loved dearly, died suddenly some years ago. She was a fit and healthy 78-year-old one minute and dead the next. I was away and had to fly home to organise the funeral with my sister, so that my father would not have to. It's a common story, I imagine.
I did not know one funeral director from the next, so I called a top-of-mind brand and asked for a quote on a basic funeral. I have long held the view, as did my mother and as does my father, that when you are gone, you are gone, and funerals offer very limited utility.
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I was given a quote over the phone of around $6000-$6500. I did not really know whether this was good or bad, although it occurred to me that my father could never have afforded it -- and there would be many other people who would find such a cost very difficult to cover.
Nonetheless, with a view to getting the matter dealt with efficiently and with the minimum of stress for all concerned, I made an appointment for my sister and I to meet with the funeral director to make the required arrangements.
Upon meeting, the first thing I discovered was that a $6000-$6500 funeral was never on the cards. It would seem the receptionist had rolled out a well-rehearsed, well-spun tale to get me into the building so that one of her co-workers could roll out an equally well-rehearsed and well-spun patter designed to drive my expenditure up. I ended up spending $8500, and that was after resisting many of the trimmings that my mother, whom they had never met, apparently ''deserved'' or would have ''wanted''.
I complained about the deception, only to be told that there was no intention to deceive and this was no time to get stressed over such things. I was later told by friends who had previously organised funerals that ''is this any time to talk about money?'' was a well-used pitch.
In my view, it was exactly the right time to talk about money. And no, I did not ''owe it to my mother to buy a beautiful coffin with spectacular satin lining''. It seemed to me wasteful in the extreme to burn a coffin built in jarrah and lined with satin.
What I learned was that funeral directors are masters at leveraging grief to up-sell, cross-sell and extract as much money as they can when a grief-stricken customer is at their most vulnerable. They are, in other words, well-practised at sinking their teeth in to extract as much blood as possible.
It also occurred to me that funeral directors have two accomplices in this process. The first is the government, which makes it impossibly difficult for relatives to bury their own loved ones. To my way of thinking, it would be so much cheaper and more enriching to organise a funeral personally -- doing without the well-coached funeral directors’ staff and their feigned emotional connection.
The second accomplice is you, dear reader. The community places so much importance in funerals when the truth is, the guests of honour are not there and will never enjoy them. As I say, when you are gone, you are gone. Nobody has ever thought good things or bad things about their funeral.
The idea that a funeral is an opportunity to demonstrate your love is stupid and bizarre. You should have demonstrated your love when the individual concerned was still alive. If you didn't, it's too late.
I'm sure that another driver of expensive funerals is what they say to those who attend. Do they demonstrate your love and the importance of the individual in the box? To this, I can only say bah humbug!
Who cares what others think. If you do, perhaps you need to talk to a psychologist about your insecurities – the same insecurities that funeral directors play on when they imply ''what will people say?''.
I made sure my mother knew I loved her in life, because I knew she would know nothing in death. I also don't give a shit what other people think.
Remember, when you are gone, you are gone
Spend the money on improving the lives of the living.
Funeral directors are leeches -- leeches supported by the government and people who have a need to impress others.
Sad, but true!
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